I’ve always written New Year’s Resolutions off as somewhat silly and, more-often-than-not, futile. This year, however, I’ve decided to take a more positive approach because I now realize that if you really want to change aspects of your life, you can. Perhaps it’s because I’ve experienced specific changes over the past few years that were considerably drastic and mostly driven by my own willpower.
Like everyone else on the planet, my life is nowhere near perfect and I’m constantly hoping for it to be “better” in certain ways. A lot of the things that bother me, though, are the result of perspectives/attitudes that I’ve grown accustomed to, ones that feel ingrained and often work as self-sabotage. In an effort to hinder these patterns a bit and provide my system with the shock it definitely needs, I’ve decided to give my life and my behaviors a hard look to see what might benefit from some capital-c Change.
In 2014 I hope to…
- Say yes more than no. I want to have more new experiences with my friends than I’ve been having lately, which are often presented to me, but turned down far too often because that feels like the safer option.
- On that note, be less flaky. I always complain about how my generation does not view frequently canceling plans at the last minute as problematic, but I am totally guilty of doing that myself.
- Think about the big picture more—where I want to be five years down the line and what I need to focus on right now to get there. Sweat the small stuff less because it probably won’t matter in mere days, weeks, or months from now.
- Expand the idea I have of myself, which seems set in stone but truly isn’t. What I can do, and do with my life overall, is still quite an open book, and the possibilities for all of us are almost always endless if we allow them to be.
- Not waste a minute more of my time with ambivalent men. I am worthy of someone whose feelings for me don’t oscillate like the weather; anyone else is sucking up time that could be better spent with friends and work.
- Express gratitude more, and make a conscious effort to reflect on what I’m grateful for daily, no matter how cheesy it feels at first (numerous studies have shown it actually makes you a happier person).
- Stop indulging in procrastination that only gives me heightened anxiety when I know full well that facing things head on is much more satisfying in the end.
- Spend less time writing in my apartment and more time doing so in public spaces. Being alone for too long is bad for your health.
- Read more fiction. I gravitate towards nonfiction and journalism these days, but since everyone is harping on the benefits of fiction lately, it can’t hurt to welcome it back into my life.
- Spend less time on the computer. Stop reading frivolous articles that are poorly written, and read tangible publications more; don’t get so sucked into all of the mindless social media sites and applications.
- For every new item of clothing I buy or receive (and plan to keep), get rid of one item from my closet. That said, don’t make impulsive purchases–always mull them over for a few days beforehand.
- Have at least one cultural experience per week, which is to say: see a film, go to a museum or gallery, see a performance, explore a new neighborhood, etc. When we live in a city we sometimes forget how many interesting things it has to offer.
What are your thoughts on New Year’s resolutions? If you’ve made any particularly unique ones, please share!
And with that out of the way, I wish you all a wonderful new year! Don’t let tonight get the best of you ;)